Need In You
Have you ever found yourself taking on the responsibilities of others, feeling obligated to protect them in the process? Perhaps you didn't realize that, in doing so, you might be depriving them of valuable life lessons they need to learn. This well-intentioned behaviour often arises from a need for approval, love, and acceptance, leading us to overextend ourselves and help others without being asked.
Sometimes, we don't pause to consider why we rush to aid others before giving them a chance to handle things themselves. What if, in our eagerness to help, we inadvertently rob them of the lessons or gifts life had in store for them? This perspective can be eye-opening.
Allow me to share a personal experience. Years ago, I thought a friend needed assistance, so I offered help in the form of material items and services. However, my well-meant gestures ended up making her feel inadequate and poor. Her honest feedback was a wake-up call, revealing my underlying need to seek love and acceptance through helping others. I realized that I had been trying to buy their friendship and that my actions were not genuinely driven by love.
This revelation prompted deep self-reflection, going back decades, and I discovered that much of what I had done in the past was motivated by a desire for approval from others, rather than genuine compassion. It was a profound and somewhat unsettling realization.
I share this story because if you can relate to my experiences and find yourself acting out of your own needs, you may eventually come face to face with the impact of your actions. Consider whether your help is genuinely wanted or asked for, and ensure it comes from a place of love, not a need for validation. True giving is born out of love and is offered without expecting anything in return, allowing you to walk away with the knowledge that your assistance was heartfelt and necessary.
Written By Kate West
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